Hilary is part of my life story project group this year. We’ve been working together since September 2012. There are six people in the group and we spent until March gathering information using a range of methods and skills.
One of the most interesting and fruitful catalysts for memories was the round table turn-taking sessions we used in the first few months. In previous years the participants had a lot of help from family members in preparation for this, but that didn’t happen with this group. They rarely had any material to bring to the sessions and a productive and fun pattern evolved as the weeks went by. Everyone turned up, sat around a large table and took turns to talk about their own experience on a given theme. Lisa, my co-worker, and I wrote down exactly what was said and we encouraged the group to ask questions of each other so that they could develop interviewing skills. In this way Hilary gradually grew a fascinating collection of tales about her family, schooling, work experience and home life. The round table method was the most effective gathering technique used.
Hilary invited her older sister, Lesley, to come to an afternoon session to fill in some gaps about her early years and to confirm dates and specific details. The previous week was spent developing a range of questions that the rest of the group came up with. These included an interesting insight in to what they were curious about, for example, ‘Did Hilary cry a lot when she was a baby? How much did she weigh? Did she ever kick the cat?’ Lesley was warm and open in her responses, (no, Hilary didn’t kick the cat, and she was a very good baby), and Hilary was delighted to have her sister there to contribute to her story.
Hilary used photos to trigger memories and tell us about her life. She couldn’t find any of her early years, but Lesley searched in the loft and found a collection of photos that had belonged to an uncle and included some precious baby pics.
Another popular method we used to capture stories became known as the ‘life story road trip’. After getting to know the backbone of the group’s stories it was possible to identify gaps in each. Hilary wanted to visit locations where she’d lived and worked during her life time. Each trip and digital photo was a trigger for more recollection. And the trips were a lot of fun on most occasions. When more difficult issues arose, for example a member of the group wanted to visit the last place she’d lived with her mother before moving in to residential care and found it very painful, the rest of the group were amazingly supportive.
Through a combination of round table sharing, photos, road trips and the interview with her sister, Hilary is happy that she has researched her life story thoroughly and is now in the process of typing up. Each week she selects a page or so of story and gets set up at a computer in the staffroom and types all day- another skill that she is perfecting as part of the project.
A big THANKYOU to Hilary for giving me permission to share her story.